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  • Get the Results in Life You Want

    Do you feel sometimes that the results you get in your life aren’t what you expected?  And, you don’t know why?  When this happens its almost as though we are living by accident rather than on purpose.

    What if you knew how to make use of one of the Buddhist laws, the simultaneity of cause and effect to create your future on purpose and not by accident? This is what I will be addressing in my video blog, below.

     

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  • Are You Sure You’re Chanting For What You Really Want?

    I hear stories where people are chanting for a goal but not getting what they really want.  Without even realizing it, they might be chanting for what they don’t want. In this post I want to discuss four reasons why this happens.

    1. You Don’t Believe Your Goal Is Possible

    Let’s say you have a major challenge. You may not be chanting for what you really want, because down deep inside, you don’t believe its possible. As long as you believe it isn’t possible, you will be right. It won’t be.

    “When your determination changes, everything will begin to move in the direction you desire. The moment you resolve to be victorious, every nerve and fiber in your being will immediately orient itself  towards your success. On the other hand, if you think, “This is never going to work out,” then at that instant every cell in your being will be deflated and give up the fight. Then everything really will move in the direction of failure.” Daisaku Ikeda, Faith into Action

    How can you create a goal that you can believe is possible?

    • Create an opening by chanting for a positive resolution to your situation, while visualizing how the end goal looks.
    • Try chanting for just the first step.

    An Experience

    I have a friend who had been slammed with bills for thousands of dollars. Her home needed major repairs and then her husband had some legal bills. She started to chant to be able to cover her bills. Before long she was able to cover them, but there was nothing extra after the bills were paid. She began to think that chanting wasn’t working. Then in a meeting she heard, “Be careful what you chant for.”

    She started to look carefully at how she had been chanting. She had been chanting to cover her bills. She realized chanting had worked. They were no longer overwhelmed with debt and were just covering their bills. Her results were giving her feedback, showing her exactly what she chanted for. But, her results weren’t what she really wanted. She really wanted to have extra money so she and her husband could have some sense of financial ease.

    She changed the way she was chanting. She started chanting for extra money to come in over and above the bills. She had absolutely no idea how that would come about but she was open that it could happen. One day, two weeks after she changed the way she was chanting, she received a letter from her mother. To her astonishment a $13,000 check was inside.

    This is a perfect example of why we need to be careful about what we are chanting for. Sometimes we don’t even realize that we are not chanting for what we really want.

    2. You Can’t See the Path

    Another reason you might not be chanting for what you want, is because you can‘t see how its going to happen. Here is where faith comes in.  You have connected to the universe. There may be many ways to your goal that you’ve never even considered. Chant with the end in mind, seeing your goal as completed. Then be open as to how it might come about.

    If you have determined that your goal can only come about one way, you could be hampering the functioning of the universe, Maybe another path might be better. It is your job to set the goal. It is the job of the universe to work out a way to get there.

    3. You Believe Circumstances Outside Yourself Control the Outcome

    We are trained by society to believe that outside circumstances control what we can achieve, the economy, another person, etc. This is the exact opposite of what Buddhism teaches, that the locus of control is within us and outside circumstances change as we change ourselves. I want to address this with a personal experience.

    An Experience

    My husband and I bought our house and were involved in a major remodel. Midway through, we discovered we were living next to a house and inhabitants that were less than desirable. The house was owned by an absentee landlord. We watched him put a roof over dry rot. It was clear. He was going to permit the building to deteriorate. His renters were a group of people, who were not going to keep up the property either, a student nurse and an alcoholic carpenter and his wife. We wanted a positive situation next door.

    I decided to chant for a positive resolution to the problem. I used to laugh that it would take an explosion for that situation to change. I couldn’t see how it would happen, but I had faith that if I continued to chant, seeing it as done, that it would eventually come about.

    I chanted for six months before anything overtly occurred. Then the alcoholic carpenter came running over in a panic. “I’ve paid my rent. I’m subletting from the nursing student. He has taken it all and gone to Vegas. The landlord is coming in two days and he is furious!”

    The landlord did arrive in a rage, and pressured anyone involved with the house for his rent money.

    A day after the landlord came, the nursing student returned. For nine months the tenants had been trying to get the landlord to repair a dangerous wiring system. The upstairs windows were stuck shut and the renters were afraid of fire. Upon the advice of his aunt, a real estate attorney, he had put the rent in an escrow account until the repairs were made.

    When the landlord continued to hassle the tenants, the nursing student got a restraining order. It forbade the landlord to come around anyone involved with his house. Now we had the landlord sitting at the end of the street by our house glaring at the nursing student playing his guitar on his front steps. I kept chanting that there would be a positive resolution to this situation.

    We heard the landlord decided to take the tenants to court. The nursing student paid for a house inspection. The inspector listed everything wrong with the house. It was much worse than we had realized. When they all arrived in court, the landlord’s attorney advised him not to go to court because he would have to fix everything wrong with the house before he could rent it. There appeared to be a stand-off. I continued to chant, while a couple of months passed. Then all the renters left. Everything was quiet.

    One day a contractor’s van rolled into the driveway. Scott had bought the house and spent six productive months fixing everything wrong with it. He sold it to someone who has been a good neighbor and has since taken care of the house.

    In my wildest imagination, I could never have foreseen what would happen to fulfill my goal. It taught me that it is an illusion to believe you can’t influence a situation. When you connect with the Mystic Law, things that seem impossible, become possible.

    You can put it to the test. Set a goal that is a stretch and then chant for it keeping your end goal in mind whenever you think about it. Refuse to let yourself dwell on anything else, except what you want. And see it as already accomplished. Since you are changing a habit you may have to do this over and over. But if you follow through, I’m sure you will be surprised. I was.

    4. You Can Only See the Problems to Achieving Your Goal

    Sometimes you don’t chant for a goal because you can only focus on the reasons it can’t get done.  We are taught to address the problems we can see. We are not taught by society that they are the results of hidden causes, that are invisible.

    When you chant you are working with the causes, the invisible  thoughts and goals which will produce future results. Imagine your future end in mind as already accomplished. You must be willing to realign yourself with what you want and turn your attention away from dwelling on anything to the contrary. When we dwell on the negative, that is what manifests. When we dwell on the positive outcome, that is what manifests. We are connected and one with the creative power of the universe. You want to use it on purpose.

    Do you think the telephone was created because Alexander Bell thought it couldn’t be done. It was invented because he saw it as done and then kept working towards that end. He held his end goal, the picture of the telephone, in his imagination. The imagination is what allows us to co-create with the universe. Use your imagination to produce your desires, not sink them.
    Don’t worry about the rest.

    Then have faith. Faith means learning to trust your universal connection to work out your end goal out as you have imagined it.

    Summary:

    1. Chant for a positive resolution to your situation visualizing the end goal as already accomplished.
    2. Use your imagination to visualize it in detail.
    3. Make sure, if doubts arise, that you refocus on your goal as accomplished. This can happen many times a day.
    4. Keep chanting and have faith the universe will work it out.

  • Why is it so Hard to Establish a New Habit?

    As we work on our human revolution, that transformation from the lesser to the greater self, we are going to have to give up habits of thinking and acting that don’t serve us and adopt new ones which serve us better.

    How Do We Build a New Habit?

    We start by making a decision to change something with our conscious mind.

     

    The  part of us that is going maintain and act on the change is our subconscious mind. that subconscious part of us is entrusted with all of the things that maintain our lives.  It keeps our heartbeat regular, digests our food, and keeps all of our vital processes functioning to maintain life.  For this reason the subconscious mind does not change quickly.

     

    Think about how you learned to drive a car. Initially you had to consciously make a decision to practice braking and accelerating as you learned to drive. You might have been overwhelmed by all the things you had to remember at once. You motivated yourself by looking at the freedom you would gain, the fact you would be a part of the grown-up world, etc. Yet after you practiced driving for a while, the actions became automatic and your unconscious reflexes put on the brake or the accelerator at just the right time.  You had become a driver. By setting the goal and following through, you grew into a new identity.

    The Steps:

    • You made the decision
    • You practiced taking small actions to build the new habits,
    • Your subconscious mind adopted the new behaviors
    • Once that happens you are supported in the new habit. the subconscious handles things automatically.
    • You built a new identity, a driver.

    Make a Decision: What do You Want to Achieve?

    Let’s say you don’t believe you can achieve the goal you’ve set and you want to be able to pull yourself out of that mindset.

    First, create a conscious vision of what you want to achieve. Why do you want to achieve it? Your why’s are your strong reasons for doing it, your motivators. Your motivators could be the opportunity, on the positive side, or the consequences if you don’t do it on the negative side.

    Make the decision you are going to do it no matter what. Then chant to be willing to make the necessary changes.

    Accept the Fact of Resistance

    We all have resistance to change. When we learn to recognize it and embrace it as part of the process, then it becomes easier to persist. Change doesn’t happen overnight so we can’t expect habit change to take place in a couple of days. You have to plan on being persistent with the new behavior for a couple of months.

    Change isn’t comfortable in the initial stages, so you must be willing to step out of your comfort zone for a while until the new behavior becomes habitual. We all revert to old thinking or behavioral habits and have to work to change them.

    Having this goal of changing a negative mindset. I don’t really believe this goal is possible. I want to change this way of thinking. I know I’m being negative and I know being negative has not created good results in my life. I don’t want to continue to create negative results in my life. I want to focus on the solution. But, I find myself falling into looking at the problem over and over. See my post, Do You Know why Your thoughts Are so Important? http://wp.me/p3V1J9-PB) to discover why developing a positive mindset is important.

    This is the time the rubber meets the road. Do you quit, drop the goal and move to something else? Or, do you stick with it and practice pulling your thinking out of looking at the problems to refocus on the positive end goal? If you decide to practice, you have engaged in the process of building a new positive habit – focusing on what you want.

    You don’t have to completely believe you will achieve the goal. Treat it as an experiment and see what happens. That way you will keep your mind positive, engaged in the process of building a new positive habit – focusing on what you want.

    One Small Step a Day

    Consciously take a small action to build the new habit. When you become aware you are falling into negative thinking, refocus your mind on your end goal – the solution to the problem. You may have to take that small action over and over during the day. When you take a small action, for example , turning your attention to what you want, your mind lowers its resistance.  It may take a month or two of being persistent in pulling your mind out of negativity. But one day you will find yourself doing it automatically. At that point you will have established a new habit and will easily focus on the positive goal.

    “I like change, but only a little bit at a time.”

    Whether you can believe you can achieve a goal or not, stick with it until you get what you want. Seeing the way events work themselves out, ends up building the belief that anything is possible.

    A Personal Experience: A Physical change

    Let’s say it’s a physical change you want to make. Lifelong I have had a tendency towards a rounded back. Slumping while sitting is a physical habit. As I got older my back rounded more as I worked at computers and desks. I decided one day I didn’t want to be facing the floor when I was 90.

    I chanted about the issue. an idea came to go to a physical therapist. I went and she she introduced me to the foam roller. I lie on it on my back length wise and use weights to open my chest. When I started a year ago, due to the rounding, there was a three inch space between my head and the foam roller. I committed myself to doing the exercises 3-4 times a week. Getting off the roller was actually painful.

    Over the months I noticed my back seemed to be loosening and then one day I was able to brush the roller with my head. Over the next couple of months my back continued to relax until I was able to lay my head flat on the roller. It took a year, but by doing just a little 4 times a week, I was able to transform the trajectory of my back. It was a huge victory. People started commenting that they couldn’t see the hump I had had. I won’t be facing the floor when I’m ninety. I didn’t think that kind of change was possible. One small action at a time.

    Find a Role Model, a Mentor

    If you’re unsure about what is needed, find a role model, someone who embodies what you want to do. You can talk to them to find out how they did it or you might read something they’ve written that shows you how they think. This is when having a mentor is so useful.

    When chanting for a goal that is a stretch, it is helpful to read Daisaku Ikeda’s writings. He demonstrates how to reach for a huge goal in The Human Revolution, and talks about the importance of staying positive in Faith Into Action. Then in the Daily Encouragement, he encourages you to persist with your dreams and not let anyone talk you out of them.

    Summary:

    1. Create a vision of what you want.
    2. Make a decision you are going to do this no matter what.

    3. Chant for your goal.
    4. Accept the fact of resistance.
    5. Take one small step a day to practice the new way of thinking, or to make a small behavioral change.
    6. Find a role model
    7. Never give up.

  • 8 Steps to Master The Way You Think

    Why is It Important to Master Negative Thinking?

    We are one with the Mystic Law, that creative, unlimited life force, in the core of our lives, our Buddha nature. Because of that connection, we human beings have an amazing ability. Our thoughts take form in the physical world. Our habitual, characteristic, predominant mental attitude shows up in the conditions, environment, health, and experiences of our daily life. As Daisaku Ikeda says in Faith into Action,

    “In accordance with 3000 realms in a single moment of life, pessimistic thoughts or feelings take form just as they are, in reality, producing negative results. People who have negative thoughts create effects for themselves that perfectly match their thinking. So its important to be optimistic.”

    In the same way our positive thoughts and mental attitudes take form as positive experiences and circumstances. In this way we build our circumstances from our inner life to manifest in the outer world.

    Accept Responsibility & Take Charge of Your Life

    No matter what your life circumstances you are not a victim. To believe, that anything outside of yourself is creating your circumstances, is to believe an illusion.
    To take charge of your life you have to take full responsibility for having created your current life circumstances. Until you understand the power you have, and use it on purpose, you will continue to create your life by accident.

    Chant for clarity if you don’t know what to do. I suspect that if you examine your thinking you will see what the issue is.  Awareness is the first step.  See margaretblaine.com/know-why to see how our thoughts often flow when chanting for a goal.

     How Can I Master a Habit of Negative Thinking?

    What can we do to change, if we know we have the habit of negative thinking? Let’s look at a specific example with the understanding that this applies to any concern you might have.
    Let’s say you want a beautiful home but currently don’t have the money to manifest it. One day you become aware that when you think about that beautiful home, you are envisioning a lack of money to do it. Don’t envision needing money, while you chant, or as you go about your day. That perpetuates the thought of lack. You don’t want to continue to produce the life circumstance of not having enough.

    Instead envision your home as beautiful and opulent as you want it to be. Imagine how it would feel to live in such a home. Imagine having plenty of money to create your dream home. Spend some time each day envisioning your home in detail, as you wish it to be. Any time you find yourself envisioning the lack of money, substitute a constructive thought for the destructive one and re-envision the home exactly as you wish it to be. You are creating a new habit of thought and as time goes on with regular practice your mind will automatically go to what you want, not to your doubts or fears.

    Even though you have an earnest desire, the general plan may be dim at first but gradually an outline will form, then the details. Each day, see the picture more and more clearly and the ways and means of manifestation will appear. Thought has the vitality of the life force behind it. It grows what is planted just as a plant grows out of a seed planted in a garden. Keep an open mind and be ready to take action when the time comes.   Don’t dig up the seed every day to see if it is growing. If you dig up a seed planted in a garden every day, it won’t germinate. That is true with the seeds in your mental garden as well.

    Try it as an experiment and see what happens.

    When the ways and means of creating what you want appear, take action.

    Some Goals Take Longer Than Others

    It’s important to recognize that some goals are going to take longer than others. All goals manifest when the time is right. Maybe you need to develop a skill. Or perhaps there is a life change that must happen. Perhaps you need to grow in some way. Whatever it is, do whatever comes up to be addressed one step at a time, while keeping your focus on what you want.

    Be Patient with Yourself

    We’ve all grown up in a society which has taught us to do the exact opposite of what I’m describing here. If we don’t like our circumstances we have been taught to try to change them rather than understanding the cause that created them. In other words, try to change the effect rather than understand the cause.

    The 8 Steps

    1. Accept that your life is what you have created the past.
    2. Pay attention to how you are thinking now. Awareness is the first step.
    3. When you catch yourself looking at your fears, or what you don’t want, re-envision what you want. Practice, practice, practice. Habit change happens a little change each day.
    4. Focus on what you want each day, seeing the details.
    5. Take action when ideas come up to move forward towards your goal.
    6. Accept that some goals take longer than others.
    7. Be patient with yourself.
    8. Keep on until you have achieved your goal.

  • Are You Missing a Step When Chanting for a Goal?

    1. Set A Positive Goal

    A reader sent me a question asking how to chant for a weight loss goal. Let’s use this goal understanding that the same principles relate to any goal we set.

    Often people chant about losing weight or wanting more money. These are negative goals. You are looking at what you are lacking, not what you want. To set a goal you need to do is decide what you want your goal weight to be, in other worlds the solution to your problem. If it is a finance goal, how much money do you want? If it is a relationship, the perfect relationship for you.

    Don’t set goals that have multiple parts. You want crystal clear goals. Simplify each goal and have as many goals as you wish. Be specific and make sure you’re chanting for what you really want.

    I heard a story from a young man, excited about results from his chanting, wanted to introduce people to the practice. He chanted to introduce people and talked to a good number of people. But they didn’t decide to start to practice. Discouraged he didn’t see he was getting exactly what he had chanted for – people to introduce. He wasn’t chanting for people who would want to begin the practice.

    2. Make a Decision

    We talk about making a determination. A determination is a decision that you are going to do this no matter what. Making a decision tells that universal part of yourself, your Buddha nature, that this is definitely what you want. Intention is the builder. Vague goals, such as I wish, I hope, maybe, I’d like, do not make that connection with the universe.

    You are telling the universe you don’t really believe your goal is possible. These kinds of thoughts do not have the energy behind them that a decision creates.

    When you make a decision and follow it up with taking the first action steps, you make connection with the quantum field, that invisible intelligent energy at the core of your life in your Buddha nature. That decision starts the process of manifesting your desire into the world. Step off the cliff and fly.

    If you can add a drop-dead date by which your goal will be accomplished that adds greater leverage still.

    If you having trouble believing it, set the goal lower or ask for the first step. You can always proceed step by step.

     

    3. Pay Attention

    Pay attention. Often the universe responds in subtle ways. Answers and ideas might come through other people, an overheard conversation or a book, a sense of inspiration. Notice any ideas that come regarding your area of concern to you, while you are chanting, or during the day.

    If you’ve set a goal, you have asked the universe to help you manifest your goal. Answers will come to you one way or another, as you’ve started a dialogue with the universe.

    Pay attention to small steps of progress. Don’t discount them.

    Be aware. Don’t let your thoughts slip into the abyss of doubt and disbelief and remain there. Pull them out and refocus on what you want. You may have to do this fifty times a day, if your habit of negative thinking is strong. Believe me it is worth it if you persist. You are practicing developing a positive mind state. Eventually it will come without effort.

    4. Be Receptive

    You have to be receptive to what you want before it can happen.


    If you not achieving your goal, you need to notice what is happening internally.

    • Are you at a subtly resisting getting what you want, thinking you don’t deserve it, that it’s for other people, not you? It could be a feeling of pushing it away..
    • Are you mostly focusing on problems all day long and not looking at solutions?
    • Are there underlying reasons why you wouldn’t want to achieve this goal?
    • Are you experiencing major ups and downs with your emotions, leading to negative thinking?

    Sometimes people focus on problems, thinking that looking at solutions is not realistic. if you do this, you are disregarding the truth of your life, that you are the builder and no one or no circumstance can stop you from getting what you want. You are looking at what appears to be true, not at the underlying reality. Turn away from thoughts of limitation, reinstate your desired outcome and follow ideas as they come to you. Allow yourself to be receptive. Open up to receiving what you have asked for.

    5.  Examine what You Are Thinking – Belief and Expectation Brings Your Goal into Manifestation –

    Your thoughts are far more important than you realize. What we believe and expect, we create. According to the Buddhist dictionary, our minds pervade the entire universe, including both body and mind, and self and environment. Our minds have the ability to take any thought and have it manifest in the future.

    People ask, “Why isn’t chanting working?” It is working. You are getting what you think about the most. Remember oneness of self and environment? If you not achieving your goal, you need to examine what you are thinking.

    Are you subtly resisting getting what you want, believing that it isn’t possible? Do you have a goal you don’t really believe you can reach?                 

    Try this. Pretend you are your future self, that you are living after your goal has been accomplished. Have your future self look back and see your goal accomplished. How would you feel then? Take that belief and confidence into your chanting time.

    6. Never Give Up

    When you hold a goal, consistently, it’s as though you are creating an architectural drawing in the unseen, which will manifest into material reality. When you don’t hold the thought, and relapse into having thoughts of limitation , it’s like having to start from scratch and redraw the drawing when you pick it up again.

    Don’t be impatient. Perhaps you may have to grow in some way before you can reach your goal. For example if your goal is a new job, you may need to develop some skill or present yourself differently as though you are the person who can fill that job. Maybe there is something major in your life that must be addressed before you would be considered for that job, for example, overcoming a substance abuse problem before being considered for a truck driving job. Are you resisting growing out of fear or because you don’t want to change something?

    Keep chanting no matter how long it takes.  you will eventually get your goal or something better.

    Summary:

    Here are the 6 steps

    1. Set a positive goal.
    2. Make a decision
    3. Pay attention
    4. Be receptive

    5.Examine what You Are Thinking
    6. Never give up

  • Know Why It’s Important to Forge Your Mind of Faith?

    President Ikeda says in the  Clear Mirror Guidance, that when you chant, your mind of faith is reflected on the entire universe, as if on a clear mirror.  This means that when you chant about a concern, your mind of faith is going to influence the results you receive.

    If your mind of faith is joyful and you chant with confidence and determination, the universe will reflect this state of mind in terms of good results.    

    But, if you are chanting ritualistically, with complaints, disbelief and doubts, you won’t receive a lot of benefit.

    Are You Aware of Your Mind of Faith?

    Being aware of your mind of faith, allows you to recognize what you are doing while you are chanting. If you are fearful, and focus on problems rather than solutions, then further problems may well be the result. If you chant with doubts, disbelieving you can be successful in achieving your goal, study, get guidance and do whatever you need to do to resolve them.

    Learn to be aware of what you are doing and then adjust your thinking to get better results. Focus on your desired solution, then relax and allow the universe to determine the path.

    This is a subtle process, but learning to control your mind is the key to developing the mind of faith, which will produce the results you want. It will allow you to bring out the full positive potential in all situations.

     What Does ‘Learn to Control Your Mind’, Mean?

    Being able to control your mind means :

    • To be able to keep your attention focused on what you want, not letting yourself dwell in doubt, fear and vivid imaginary disasters.
    • To refuse to be deluded by how things appear on the surface of life, knowing that if you stay focused and continue to chant, you can effect change.
    • To be emotionally stable through the ups and downs of life, staying focused on your goal as you wish it to be.
    • To possess the confidence that you have the same creative power as universal mind, that you can mold, influence, overcome obstacles and create expansion in your life just as that universal energy does.

    An Experience

    Two married practitioners, Amy and Doug, had agreed to be co-signers on their daughter, Diane’s house. All went well for several years and then both Diane and her partner, Alicia, lost their jobs. They couldn’t afford the mortgage. Without telling Amy and Doug, they stopped paying their mortgage. Everyone’s credit went downhill. When Doug and Amy checked their credit for something else eight months later, they realized there was a problem. For a while they tried to help, but soon a second mortgage was more than they could afford.

    How Can We Get Them to Put the House on the Market?

    Amy and Doug began to chant for ideas on what to do, as Diane and Alicia weren’t prepared to put the house on the market. Diane attempted to get an adjustment on the mortgage but it wasn’t moving forward. The bank kept asking for more and more papers and losing the ones she’d provided. The back monies kept rising month by month. If the house was foreclosed, it would mean Doug and Amy’s retirement. They felt completely powerless.

    They chanted about how to get Diane and Alicia to put the house on the market.

    They talked repeatedly to Diane and Alicia about getting a real estate agent. Relationships grew tense. They chanted about how to handle the house issue, and still keep the relationships positive. Then unexpectedly the bank took legal action. Doug, Amy, Diane and Alicia received papers summoning them to a court date.

     What Would It Take to Sell the House?

    Seeing that the bank was getting ready to force action, Amy and Doug went to look at the house. They saw there were a number of repairs and painting that needed to be done before the house could be put on the market. The owners finally agreed that if everyone was going to get their money out of the house, it had to be put up for sale.

    While chanting, Amy and Doug realized that they could take care of the repairs, the painting and the large overgrown yard, since both Alicia and Diane had significant physical problems. The family began to pull together. Doug and his oldest son did the repairs and Amy and Doug paid for the yard work and a retainer for an attorney. Then Diane’s younger brother came for a visit and he helped them weed out their belongings. A full dumpster went to the dump.

    A Crisis

    Amy and Doug chanted daily for a good buyer. After two months, three showed up. One was accepted. A month passed while inspectors came to look at all the systems in the house.

    Their attorney told the Diane and Alicia the first court date was due to be the day after their expected closing date.

    One month before the closing date, the buyers came back with another offer wanting about $30,000 worth of repairs. The sellers and Doug and Amy were under the gun.

    Don’t Be Thrown by Events

    Doug and Amy could have been overwhelmed and fearful facing the apparent situation – the potential loss of the buyer, repairs they couldn’t afford and a foreclosure. Instead, they had confidence, that with their chanting practice they were going to succeed.  They continued to chant while keeping their eye firmly on the goal, a smooth closing. All four sellers put their heads together and agreed to cover about $2500 in repairs . They told the buyers that they weren’t going to haggle any further, but would go to the next buyer. The counter bid was accepted.

    No Money to Move

    The second crisis showed up when  Diane and Alicia didn’t have the money to move. They had bad credit, three cats and two large dogs. Diane rapidly discovered that no rental company would rent to them.

    Doug and Amy chanted that they would find a place to live where they would be happy.

    Diane talked to her brothers about helping out with money for the move. To everyone’s surprise and relief, they agreed.

    Diane and Alicia found a townhouse perfect for them despite their bad credit. The owners believed in giving second chances, a second surprise.

    One day before the scheduled court date, the house was fully sold and recorded. The family got their money back from the profits made by the sale of the house.

    Poison Turned Into Medicine

    Poison, the threatened foreclosure, had been turned into medicine, a successful sale, and successful move, and better family relationships.

    Summary:
    1. Be aware of what you are projecting to the universe, your mind of faith.
    2. Deal with any complaints, doubts and disbelief.
    3. Control your mind and emotions and stay positive, your eye on the goal, no matter what.

  • Know Why You Don’t Always Get What You Want?

    Let’s say you’ve set a goal for a new house. You’ve begun to chant about it.  Do you find your thinking going like this?

    I want a new house.
    I doubt I can get it.
    I want a new house but I don’t think I can afford it.
    I want a new house in this lovely neighborhood.
    My significant other says that isn’t realistic in view of my history.

    And so it goes….

    When you set the goal, you have started the process of attracting it to you. Your goal is the thought that is going to draw and shape that universal life-energy and bring it into your world. If you have thoughts that doubt you can get it, or say you can’t afford it, it’s as though you’ve held up your palm and told the universe to slow down.

    According to President Ikeda, “When your determination changes, everything will begin to move in the direction you desire.  The moment you resolve to be victorious, every nerve and fiber in your being will immediately orient itself towards your success. On the other hand if you think, “This is never going to work out,” then in that instant every cell in your being will be deflated and give up the fight.  Then everything really will move in the direction of failure. Faith into action, P. 108-109.

    Keep Giving Attention to What You Want

    Maybe your goal feels like too big a stretch and you don’t believe you can get there. Don’t give up. Take the first step towards your goal. Look at houses on the internet. As you look at the beautiful homes, let yourself dwell on what you want. Flesh it out in detail. Give attention to what you want. That attention continues to strengthen the desire. Brush away any thoughts to the contrary and turn your attention back to what you want.

    Develop the Details

    As you dream about your perfect house, add in the special details that would make it your home. Allow yourself to become excited about it. Know there will be the perfect house for you when the time is right.

    Don’t keep Looking at the Defects in Your Old House

    You’ve been living with what you don’t want. That’s why you decided to set the new goal. Don’t continue to look at the defects in the old house over and over to explain why you want a new one. When you keep giving attention to them, you are creating more of the same. Focus your mind on what you want and brush away what you don’t want. This is not always easy and often requires practice.

    What is Being Realistic?

    My significant other says I’m not being realistic in view of my history. Being realistic to him/her means looking at conditions as they have been in the past. If you continue to look at what-has -been, that is what you will continue to create. What you give your attention to, grows. Don’t you want to create a new reality, something new? To do that, you must keep your attention on what you want to have happen, the something new.

    The Material World is More Changeable Than You Think

    You often think that the way life looks on the surface it is the reality. When you do this you are forgetting that all of life at the quantum level is vibration and shaped by thought. It only looks immovable. But that’s not the reality. When you persist with your thought and stay focused on what you want the “immovable conditions of life” will give way to the new creation.

    You Set the Goal: The Universe Handles How to Get There

    It’s your job to set the goal. It is the job of the universe to take care of how you are going to get there. When you decide how it is going to happen, you set road blocks in the way of the universe doing its job. When you open your mind to all the possibilities, you may well be completely surprised by what develops, sometimes things you would never have imagined.

    A Personal Experience

    My husband and I bought a fixer upper and turned it into our dream home. Next to us was a house owned by an out-0f-state landlord who was letting the house deteriorate. The renters went from a nice family to multiple renters, one couple with substance abuse problems and a nurse in training.

    We chanted that the house would be bought by someone who would fix it up and make a nice home of it. For several months, nothing happened. We could have looked at what was and decided that we couldn’t influence it. Instead, we persisted chanting with our vision in mind. I remember saying to my husband that only an explosion would change the situation there. We just couldn’t see how our goal could happen.

    One day, there was an explosion. The nurse, collected the rent, and left town to consult with his aunt, a real estate attorney. The landlord arrived two days later in a high temper. It turned out the nurse had put the rent in escrow until the landlord fixed electrical problems, which were in danger of causing a fire. The landlord harassed everyone. When the nurse returned he slapped the landlord with a restraining order which forbade him to come around the house or talk to anyone involved. We had the landlord sitting on the wall in front of our house glaring at the nurse playing his guitar on the front step of his house at 1 A.M. Then we heard rumors of court action. In the space of three days, everyone left the house.

    Nothing happened for six months, while we continued to chant, our vision in mind. Then one day, Scott drove in. He was a contractor, and had bought the house with the intention of fixing it up and selling it. He turned that house into a beautiful family home and then sold it to a man who has been an outstanding landlord, who rented it to a nice family. Anything is possible!!!

    Summary:

    1. Remember your thoughts are the builder. They form  that life force/energy into what you envision.

    2. Look at at what you want, not what you don’t want.
    3. Practice getting rid of negative thoughts by returning your attention to what you want.
    4. Don’t worry about being realistic. That is only what-has-been and you don’t want to continue to create the same old thing.
    5. What appears unchangeable is an illusion. Everything can be changed when we turn our thought energy to it and chant about it.
    6. Be open that it can happen in ways you can’t imagine. Don’t tie down the creativity of the universe by structuring ‘how’ it is going to happen.
    7.  Set a goal and try the experiment.

  • I’ve Been chanting a Lot! Why Isn’t something Happening?

    Question: I’ve been chanting two hours a day about my goal but nothing seems to be happening. I don’t have any ideas about what to do.

    If this is the case, the following are some things to consider, as they can affect movement forward towards a goal.

    Recognizing Ideas

    Look for ideas relating to what you are chanting about during you’re chanting time, but also during the day. Ideas can come in many ways, books, people etc. If you are chanting about an issue, pay attention.

    3d render of signpost of words listen and ignore

    Are You Talking Yourself Out of Ideas?

    What do you do once an idea appears? Are you by any chance talking yourself out of ideas that come, because you don’t see how you would get from the beginning to the end? If this is the case, take the first step in the direction pointed out, even though you can’t see any further. That will allow you to see further down the path.

    Are You Taking Action?

    Chanting alone won’t take you where you want to go. The universe wants to support you but you must start taking action before that can happen. It’s like the rice farmer who chants for an abundant harvest, but never plants the rice. The universe works through us when we start to move forward.

    The Path Will Unfold Under Your Feet

    Sometimes we have to move forward not knowing where we are going. It’s like walking blind, and it requires faith in the process to take those steps. But when you begin first one step and then the next, you will be able to see further down the path. Its’ as though the path unfolds under your feet as you move forward.

    Rolling Out The Red Carpet

    When you take action the universe can support you.

    Let me give you an example. “I was talking with my friend about my uncertainty about how to market my book, Your Path to Unshakeable Happiness. She suggested I go to Womenspace, an agency that deals with domestic violence, and drop off two books. Since I had been chanting about this issue, and looking for answers, I followed up on her suggestion. A client read the book and loved it.

    That client participated in an addictions program as well. She requested that the recovery program have a Buddhist group there. We taught people, who then went to live all over the state. But if I had not paid attention to my friend’s idea, taken action in spite of my fears, and dropped off the books, none of this would have happened.

    Keep your eye on what you want to see happen, your goal. And as you take the first step chant about the second, then the third and so on. Then act on ideas as they come to you.

    Is Fear Stopping You?

    Sometimes we chant but don’t move forward because we are fearful of doing what is necessary to take the next step. Since we’re doing our human revolution it is natural that we might have fears when trying to expand our lives.

    Chant until you shift your life condition into courage. http://margaretblaine.com/three-steps-to-finding-courage/ Don’t procrastinate. Take the action that you are afraid of, quickly.

    Are You Focusing on the Obstacles or Your Goal?

    Ask yourself. Are you keeping your eye on the goal or dwelling on the obstacles? We have to remember that what we focus on we find, and what we focus on will grow. So do you want to manifest the obstacles or do you want to manifest your goal?

    While chanting, if you may become aware that your mind has gone to the obstacles, gently bring it back to what you want. Do this over and over, while you are chanting and also when you find yourself focusing on obstacles during the day. You are creating a new habit that will support you in moving towards your goals. In time you will find that it becomes easier to focus on what you want, not what you don’t want.

    Are You Resisting Personal Change?

    When we set a goal, we are saying, “This is the person I want to be.” That means you have declared your intention to grow. Now see all know that when we decide to grow there is going to be resistance. This is because our subconscious mind wants life to stay the way it is. http://margaretblaine.com/6-steps-to-making-personal-changes-when-chanting-for-a-goal For the first time, we see all the steps we are going to have to take. It would be so much more comfortable if change would just magically happen. But it isn’t magic.

    Chanting means we are going to change. If we are resisting it, then the goal can take much longer. Since often we are not aware this is happening, the linked article will help to recognize how we talk ourselves out of moving forward. (http://margaretblaine.com/resistance-personal-change-stop-achieving-goals/) Once we can recognize what we are doing, we can make a decision to do something differently, and continue to make progress.

    When you take these steps,  you will break through and things will start to move.

    Oneness of Self and the Environment

    We can’t stay the same and expect different results. That, I’ve been told, is the definition of insanity. Remember the Buddhist concept of ‘Oneness of Life and Its Environment’? http://margaretblaine.com/basics/oneness-of-life-and-its-environment/When we change, the environment around us changes. It happens from the inside out.

    Summary:

    If nothing is happening and you have been chanting about an issue, run through this checklist of considerations.

    1. Are you recognizing the ideas coming to you?
    2. Are you talking yourself out of ideas?
    3. Are you taking action?
    4. Are you letting the path unfold under your feet?
    5. Are you letting fear stop you?
    6. Are you focusing on the obstacles or your goal?
    7. Are you resisting personal change?
    8. Have you familiarized yourself with the Buddhist concept of oneness of life and its environment?
  • 5 Steps to Handling Your Resistance to Moving Forward

    In the last post we identified different ways we talk ourselves out of our goals when we hit our resistance to personal growth. Is Resistance to Personal Change Stopping You From Achieving Your Goals?

    I want to add one more way that you might talk yourself out of your goal.

    I Am in a Rut

    I know I should be doing this, or that but I’m not and that is just how things are. When the person in a rut runs into some sort of obstacle, gets frightened or overwhelmed, he just quits. He doesn’t blame anyone else, he just quits. To avoid feeling bad about himself he distracts himself with mindless activities.

    Don’t lower your standards. Instead raise them a little and take baby steps to move forward. Little by little you can do it.

    5 Steps to Continue to Move Forward When You Encounter Resistance

    1. Identify your resistance as it is happening.

    You have probably recognized your preferred method of resistance as you read through the examples in the last two posts. Then note how you feel when your resistance is active. For example, I feel reluctant to move forward or begin to find reasons why I shouldn’t have to do this project. Resistance can show in in an automatic unthinking behavior. For example – even with a weight loss goal you find yourself going down the candy isle without even thinking. Or, you might feel pushed to behave in a certain way in a situation and uncomfortable if you can’t behave that way.

    An Example

    Carl has made a determination and is chanting to adopt a way of eating that will support a 50 pound weight loss. He eats out often. His parents trained him to clean his plate and not waste money. We know that restaurants today serve portions that are double what we need. Carl automatically acts on his habit of overeating in restaurants due to his training. As this habit does not support his weight loss goal, he needs to develop a new habit -to eat until he is comfortable, and then stop.

    2. Make a Plan for Handling the Situation

    Creating your Plan A close-up of a keyboard with green highlighted text Plan

    Carl will have to create a plan for what he is going to do at the restaurant. He might remind himself to cut the plate in half and take one half home. He might ask the waitress to bring him half a plate and put the rest in a carry out box before she brings his meal to the table.

    If he has a full plate, he will need to catch himself as he starts to automatically overeat. If he feels uncomfortable at leaving food on the plate, he knows he is facing his resistance and there is some belief he needs to identify and change. He must learn to recognize the thought that pushes him into overeating.

    3. Develop a different way of talking to yourself

    Carl will need to develop a different belief leading to different self-talk. He must identify the thought leading to automatic overeating. “I don’t want to waste money.”  Then he needs to replace it with another such as,“When I take home half the meal I am not wasting it. I am increasing my food budget as I’ll have food tomorrow. Or, “The starving children abroad won’t be able to eat this anyway.”

    4. Find a role model that exemplifies what you are trying to achieve

    The phrase Find A Good Role Model typed on a piece of paper and pinned to a cork notice board

    Carl needs to find a slim role model and watch what that person does in a restaurant.

    5. Develop a habit interrupt.

    One person who had a weight loss goal discovered he was sabotaging his weight loss by automatically eating 2 fig bars at 4:00 in the afternoon at his desk. He justified this by
    saying he was hungry. By adding these 400 calories a day, he had started to gain weight.

    He interrupted the habit by putting the bars across the room so he would have to go and get them, giving him time to think about what he was doing. He also laid in a lower
    calorie snack.

    Address the Resistance and Keep Moving Forward

    No matter what the goal or what your resistance looks like, you can apply these five steps to get through your resistance so you can move forward, do your human revolution and achieve your goal.

    • Identify your preferred method of resistance
    • Make a plan for handling the resistance when it comes up
    • Develop a different way of talking to yourself.
    • Find a role model that exemplifies what you are trying to achieve.
    • Develop a habit interrupt.

    Keep moving forward toward your goal.

  • Is Resistance to Personal Change Stopping You From Achieving Your Goals?

    Talking yourself out of moving forward with your goals?  You’ve hit your resistance to personal change. Once you can recognize your preferred form of resistance then you can move through it. We all have resistance as I discussed in 6 Steps to Making Personal Changes When Chanting for a Goal. I suspect that one of the reasons people may not achieve their goals is because of falling into one of the following types of resistance. Without recognizing what is happening and what to do about it, they abandon their goal.

    According to Rod Hairiston, coach and trainer, the following are the main ways we talk ourselves out of a goal I am sharing them with you, as recognizing my own method of resistance, has allowed me to follow through with goals I would have abandoned otherwise.

    Catagories of Resistance

    I Am A Victim

    The first is being a victim and seeing yourself as being at the mercy of all circumstances, people and situations around you.  The victim will give their power away to say, ”My hands are tied. I can’t move forward until he changes first.’ Or “I can’t get a good job until the economy gets better.”

    Hands of a missing kidnapped abused hostage victim woman tied up with rope in emotional stress and pain afraid restricted trapped call for help struggle terrified locked in a cage cell.

    In Nichiren Buddhism, we know that we create our reality from the inside out, oneness of self and environment.  You are not at the mercy of anyone or any circumstance.  Take back your power and “ability to respond” and change what you thinking and doing to support what you want.

    Is There Something Else?

    You are convinced there is something out there that will help you get the results you want. You are flexible and upbeat. Once the initial excitement of setting a new goal wears off and you find out what is actually going to be required for your goal, you  drop the goal  and look for the next book or seminar.

    Concept Handwritten With Chalk On A Blackboard.

    You need to work on internal confidence and stick with one goal in order to grow to the next level. Make a commitment to say with what you’re doing for an extended, defined period of time to develop your emotional muscle. Develop self-talk and find models that will allow you to persist.

    I Don’t Like Change

    Your highest priority is finding certainty, keeping things the way they have always been. You don’t like change. But the only way you can achieve your goals and grow to Buddhahood is through personal change. That is what human revolution is all about.

    Cartoon of business boss saying to his staff, I don't want to change. I want all of you to change.

    You know from Nichiren Buddhism that the unchanging rock, to stand on, is inside you. Remind yourself, everything else can change but you always have that stability.

    I Am Going to Push Thru Right Direction or Not

    Change is needed but you don’t know what the right decision is or how to do it. So you escape
    into a flurry of activity. You make a decision and stick to it whether or not you’re getting the

    Egoist, Arrogant, and Stubborn Boss. A hand drawn vector cartoon illustration of a boss with bad attitude.
    results you want. You don’t want to hear that there might be a better way.
    Remember if you’ve made a decision that isn’t working out, it’s not a reflection on you. It just
    means it’s time to try a different path.

    I Am Always Stressed

    Portrait of a mature stressed woman

    You are always hurrying thru your journey not enjoying it. You always think you have to
    achieve this or that before you can relax.

    You need to understand that life is about happily achieving, not achieving to be happy. Enjoy
    the journey.

    I Wear A Mask

    You only let other people see what you want them to see. You feel like a fraud and that other
    people will find you out. When you hit the hard reality of what your goal is going to require, you
    lie about how you are feeling – trying to look ok to everyone even though you feel things are
    falling apart.

    People aren’t really thinking about you. You need to acknowledge your own worth first and
    learn to like yourself. Then the opinion of others won’t matter very much.

    Getting it Together

    As we come to recognize how we resist moving forward, a new person emerges. . He or she makes a determination and has a strong “why” for what he is doing. This person meets obstacles by continuing to move forward at a comfortable pace, one step at a time. He works in small bite sized pieces which when repeated over and over grow into habits which support his goals.

    Background concept wordcloud illustration of meaningful life

    If he stops moving forward he examines what is happening but doesn’t put himself down for it. He examines his beliefs and if there is a better way to reach his goal he takes it.
    He knows he needs to keep moving forward, practicing positive attitudes and actions, finding good models to learn from and growing a little each day. He knows that his unconscious mind will turn into his ally once those constructive attitudes and actions turn into unconscious, automatic habits. He knows that once built, these constructive habits will make it easier for him to reach his goals.

    Personal Experience

    When I hit difficulties with goals and developed resistance to completing them, I looked for something else, the next tape or seminar, while abandoning the goal I had been so excited about. Once I learned to recognize this pattern as it was happening, then I knew what I had to do when working on a new project. Just gear in there and stick with it one step at a time. I chose to use as a role model a person who demonstrates this one step at a time approach.  Then I developed self talk  such as, ” This doesn’t happen over night.  Just take a step forward every day.” Since then I have been completing goals, from which I would have backed away previously. Your preferred method may be one of the others described in this post.

    You Can Get it Together

    Set a goal.  When you hit resistance to moving forward:

    1. Identify your preferred method of resisting change as it is happening.

    2. Find models you can emulate.
    3. Develop a way of talking to yourself that will allow you to move forward.

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